LIFE - A Gift

"HUM KO MANN KI SHAKTI DENA, MANN VIJAY KAREN

DUSROAN KI JAI SE PEHLE KHUD KO JAI KAREN"

I am a Hindu and I believe in my religion. It is believed that a soul has to go through 84 lacs life forms to get a human life again. A human life - that is the top most of all life forms. Why do not all of us, the lucky ones, utilize this life to the fullest? Human life is the greatest gift of GOD to us, we should thank GOD and respect the gift. WE ARE ALL LUCKY..........

Luck is not always on our side. There comes a moment in life when our mind is forced to give up. We are so emotionally low and surrounded by negative energies that we lose all the courage to fight back and win. The reason could be any, the fact is that even if a thought like giving up in any situation comes to our mind is a disgrace. We are born to fight, we are born to WIN. We have been rewarded with this human life not as a trophy for winning some tournament but because GOD considers us responsible enough to be on top. No matter what the situation is, we have to fight to win.

One such situation of giving up came in my friends life a few months back. She asked me, "WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IF I WERE TO TELL YOU THAT I WANT TO END MY LIFE."

I got disturbed. I thought I knew her well, so well that it gave me a shock. An energetic girl so full of life but all of a sudden wants to end it. Believe me, She was serious.

I always believe, "Jeev hatya is BRAHAM hatya"

What I told her then is immaterial but I want to pen down my thoughts on this. WHAT MAKES A MAN THINK ABOUT ENDING HIS/HER LIFE?"

It is either we are too dependent on someone or something OR we desperately want that someone or something to be dependent on us. When we reach a pressure cooker point where that dependency cannot survive any further we start thinking about finishing our life or the relation. To be Dependent means to be a SLAVE.

Slavery is the worst a man can do to himself or mankind. Slavery originates from desires, either lack of it or from uncontrollable desires, i.e. GREED. Like they say, Excess or Lack of anything Important is BAD, so is the case with our desires. When our desires get out of control we start breaching all the rules and think that we are immortal only to realize at a stage where the penalty for breaking the rules is so bulky in magnitude that we are not strong enough to face it. The best example I can quote here is of Adolf Hitler. (No point discussing this example any further)

There are people who are less important to mankind, who also think they are strong only to realize later that they are mentally too weak. MENTALLY SO WEAK that they cannot fight the battle when it becomes a WAR. People who either want to finish their life or a relation of importance are WEAK. This is TRUTH, Accept IT, the sooner the better. I once saw a movie in which a man who madly loves a beautiful socialite and marries her later commits suicide because she is constantly committing adultery. The fact that I am trying to raise here is that we should know what we are capable of and what we are doing or getting into. If we have control over our desires and think with a level head in the very beginning then we would be able to avert a situation in future that might be out of control. A student who is not good enough to get into IIT or HARVARD or even if someone is but is unable to clear the exams when he is there loses his control, spouse not adjusting well with us or our family, a failed mad one sided Love Affair, not able to stand on our exaggerated commitment, an idiot woman saying something ridiculous to us on a TV show and an even bigger idiot TV channel that airs it, the reason can be any but the fact is that we are a slave of our desires. He who wins over his desires would win the battle of life, he who does not would lose it someday for sure.

What is important is that we should always be ourselves. Being ourselves gives meaning to our life. It gives us eternal happiness if not the materialistic one. He who manages to be himself does not stands a danger of falling down and even if he does falls down due to any reason has the capability and courage to rise up again. This does not mean that we should not grow in life. We should always work hard for our growth with responsibility. GROWTH is very important for a man to keep moving ahead in life. It is a great motivation. But one should grow responsibly. My dear friend, Avtar Saini Sir, says "any growth that is above 15-20% a year is a questionable growth". We should always grow systematically whether financially or emotionally. Hurrying up in business, profession, in love or on roads can lead to an accident. BE SYSTEMATIC.

We should love ourselves (I presume the reader understands the meaning of true love..... stupidity by the name of blind love is uncalled for over here). When we are in love with ourselves we demand freedom. With freedom comes responsibility as freedom never comes alone. When we are free we do not dump our responsibilities on anyone else, we are always responsible given any situation. Only then are we free from slavery. We are now in sync with the beauty of life. One of my dear friends (name I cannot write here) once said to me, "We Indians (majorly if not all) are so desperate to have a son that we can go to any extreme to have one. When we have a son, we live all our life to make him grow and fulfill all his dreams but one day he might go out and leave us alone whether for studies or for a job. We forget all our desires and just concentrate on his. Why cannot we balance it? Why cannot we live a life where we take care of our happiness at all times in life and also take care of our children in a way that we are responsible for them today and are responsible for ourselves tomorrow. LOVE ourselves first, only then can we truly love our near and dear ones.

We should be alive throughout our life. To be alive means to be respectful, responsible, loving, lovable, independent, have a good sense of humor. I once read it somewhere, "REVERENCE FOR LIFE IS THE ONLY RESPECT FOR DIVINE, BECAUSE, THERE IS NOTHING MORE DIVINE THAN LIFE ITSELF". JUST LIVE.............

Lyrics from the great JON BON JOVI song says it all:

ITS MY LIFE

ITS NOW OR NEVER

I AIN'T GONNA LIVE FOREVER

I JUST WANNA LIVE WHILE I AM ALIVE

ITS.......MY........LIFE........